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Monday, December 3, 2012

Wiber: Chiefs and Brady Quinn should be commended for play and attitude amid adversity

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Tragedy struck the Kansas City area on Saturday morning.  Kansas City Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher shot and killed his girlfriend and mother of his 3 month old baby before turning the gun on himself and committing suicide in Arrowhead Stadium's parking lot.

How does a team, after suffering such a horrifying event, go out and play football?

To take the words from Coach Romeo Crennell, the Chiefs and quarterback Brady Quinn played and won on Sunday because they are football players and coaches and football is what they do on Sunday’s.

I know people probably thought playing the game was a bad idea, but I believe sports can start to help the healing process.  I know, through my experience of losing someone close to me, I couldn’t sit around and think about it. I went to work and coached my team.

It gave me a break from thinking about my loss and let me focus on something else for just awhile.  It gave me a positive outlet so I coulb begin the healing process.

That is what the Chiefs did and there were a couple of people that stood out, in my mind, on how they handled the situation.  The players were Eric Winston and Brady Quinn.

Winston had a few interviews after the game, but what stood out for me was the fact that all he kept talking about was the 3 month old baby that would grow up without a mother or father.

I couldn’t agree with him more.

Because of one man’s selfish act, a baby has to grow up wondering what happened to her parents.  This one man’s act puts a three month old baby on an uphill battle throughout life.  I wish nothing but the best for that poor baby.

Brady Quinn put things so eloquently during the post-game press conference. When asked about the emotion in the locker room after the game, Brady had this to say.

“It was tough. It’s an eerily feeling after a win because you don’t feel like you can win in this situation. I think the one thing is hopefully people can try to take away…I guess the relationships they have with people. I know when it happened I was sitting there in my head thinking, ‘what could I have done different?’ When you ask someone how they’re doing, do you really mean it? When you answer someone back on how you’re doing, are you really telling the truth? We live in a society of social networks and Twitter pages and Facebook. That’s fine and stuff, but we have contact with our work associates, our family, our friends, and it seems like half the time we’re more preoccupied with our phone and other things going on instead of the actual relationships we have in front of us. Hopefully people can learn from this and try to actually figure out if someone is battling something deeper on the inside than what they may be revealing on a day-to-day basis.”

I could not have said it any better.

I go out in public and look around, all you see is people with their headphones in and faces buried in their electronic devices.  I see people out to dinner and they are sitting with friends and family and they are all on their phones.

I will end with this.  People need to unplug for a minute and try to strike up a conversation with somebody.  You never know whose life you might save.

Anthony Wiber is a columnist for StlSportsMinute.com and is a main contributor on the Cruddy Show (@CruddyShow), a St. Louis sports talk show that airs on Tuesdays and Fridays at 9:30 pm CT.  You can follow Wiber on Twitter as well (@AWibes).

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